Love Her Well by Kari Kampakis

Book Description

Moms are eager for tips and wisdom to help them build strong relationships with their daughters, and Kari Kampakis’s Love Her Well gives them ten practical ways to do so, not by changing their daughters but by changing their own thoughts, actions, and mind-set.

For many women, having a baby girl is a dream come true. Yet as girls grow up, the narrative of innocence and joy changes to gloom and doom as moms are told, “Just wait until she’s a teenager!” and handed a disheartening script that treats a teenage girl’s final years at home as solely a season to survive.

Author and blogger Kari Kampakis suggests it’s time to change the narrative and mind-set that lead moms to parent teen girls with a spirit of defeat, not strength. By improving the foundation, habits, and dynamics of the relationship, mothers can connect with their teen daughters and earn a voice in their lives that allows moms to offer guidance, love, wisdom, and emotional support.

As a mom of four daughters (three of whom are teenagers), Kari has learned the hard way that as girls grow up, mothers must grow up too. In Love Her Well, Kari shares ten ways that moms can better connect with their daughters in a challenging season, including:

  • choosing their words and timing carefully,
  • listening and empathizing with her teen’s world,
  • seeing the good and loving her for who she is,
  • taking care of themselves and having a support system, and more.

This book isn’t a guide to help mothers “fix” their daughters or make them behave. Rather, it’s about a mom’s journey, doing the heart work and legwork necessary to love a teenager while still being a strong, steady parent. Kari explores how every relationship consists of two imperfect sinners, and teenagers gain more respect for their parents when they admit (and learn from) their mistakes, apologize, listen, give grace, and try to understand their teens’ point of view. Yes, teenagers need rules and consequences, but without a connected relationship, parents may never gain a significant voice in their lives or be a safe place they long to return to.

By admitting her personal failures and prideful mistakes that have hurt her relationships with her teenage daughters, Kari gives mothers hope and reminds them all things are possible through God. By leaning on him, mothers gain the wisdom, guidance, protection, and clarity they need to grow strong relationships with their daughters at every age, especially during the critical teen years.


Love Her Well by Kari Kampakis is a wonderful book that helps moms through the difficult teen years of their daughter’s life.
This book has 10 chapters. 10 ways to find joy and connection with your teenage daughter. In each of these chapters you will find other list, like:
1.In chapter 2) Fourteen Realities Impacting Todays Teen Girls
2. In chapter 4) Twenty Ways To Grow A Relationship With Your Teen Daughter
3. In chapter 7) Fifteen Ways To Be Your Daughter’s Emotional Coach

And there are more, this should be enough to get a feel of what this book teaches. There are Reflection Questions to help remember and discuss things you have read. There is no way I can lost every topic in this book. This author though of everything. A few things that I highlighted are social media, self confidence, emotional self control, letting your daughter have feelings, knowing your daughters interests and passions, and so so many more.

If you have a teenage daughter in your life, or any age daughter really, this book can help you in so many ways. I wish there had been a book like this for boys when my son was growing up. I believe this book can help both daughter and mom adjust to the new life. And I will throw this in, I think dads that are raising their daughter can benefit from this as much as a mom can. All in all, I love this book. As I read it, there was a peace knowing that you can find the help you need with your child at this age. I just may keep the peace at times there could be real problems. Keep this book as a reference to go to as much as needed.

A special thanks to the author/publisher for a copy of this book. I am not required to write a positive review, the opinions here are mine alone. I am disclosing this with my review in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255.


Kari Kubiszyn Kampakis is an author, blogger, and national speaker from Birmingham, Alabama. Her books for teen girls, 10 Ultimate Truths Girls Should Know and Liked: Whose Approval Are You Living For?, have been used widely across the country by teen youth groups and church groups to empower girls through faith.

Kari’s work has been featured on the TODAY Show, TODAY Parents,Yahoo! News, EWTN, Proverbs 31, Ann Voskamp’s blog, The Huffington Post, and other national outlets. She and her husband, Harry, have four daughters and a dog named Lola. Learn more by visiting http://www.kari or finding Kari on Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter.

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